The Playbook

SolvesFlitting between activities, never settling on one.

LearnPick one thing on purpose, name it out loud, and own the choice — choosing this means not that, for now.

SolvesBailing the moment something gets boring or hard.

LearnStay with the chosen thing to a real finish line, instead of switching the instant attention drifts.

SolvesActivities fade out instead of finishing; no clear “done.”

LearnRecognize and name a real, honest “finished” — not a drift away, a concrete moment.

SolvesFive things strewn out at once; nothing ever put away.

LearnReset the space before starting something new — the cleanup is what marks that one thing is over.

SolvesA “no” becomes a negotiation, or a meltdown that wins.

LearnHear a “no” and accept it — feel the feeling without bargaining the boundary away.

SolvesEverything is “mine”; the Van-vs-Stevie tug-of-war.

LearnTake turns with shared things and understand that some things belong to all of us, not just to me.

LearnBuild the ability to get dressed by yourself.

LearnBuild the ability to make your bed.

LearnBuild the ability to put your toys away.

LearnBuild the ability to set the table.

LearnBuild the ability to pour your own drink.

LearnBuild the ability to count to one hundred.

LearnBuild the ability to letters and their sounds.

LearnBuild the ability to say sorry and make it right.

LearnBuild the ability to wait for your turn.

LearnBuild the ability to tell the truth when it’s hard.

LearnBuild the ability to water the plants.

LearnBuild the ability to name your feelings.

LearnBuild the ability to ask for help when you’re stuck.

LearnBuild the ability to pick one thing and plan your morning.

LearnBuild the ability to read a book on your own.

LearnBuild the ability to add and subtract.

LearnBuild the ability to ride a bike.

LearnBuild the ability to swim.

LearnBuild the ability to make a simple sandwich.

LearnBuild the ability to tell time on a clock.

LearnBuild the ability to tie your shoes.

LearnBuild the ability to keep a promise.

LearnBuild the ability to notice how others feel.

LearnBuild the ability to do a daily chore unprompted.

LearnBuild the ability to lose a game gracefully.

LearnBuild the ability to save coins toward a goal.

LearnBuild the ability to treat everyone with respect.

LearnBuild the ability to plan your afternoon.

LearnBuild the ability to do your own laundry.

LearnBuild the ability to budget your allowance.

LearnBuild the ability to give basic first aid.

LearnBuild the ability to touch typing.

LearnBuild the ability to look it up and check it.

LearnBuild the ability to world history basics.

LearnBuild the ability to how living things work.

LearnBuild the ability to work as part of a team.

LearnBuild the ability to cook a simple meal.

LearnBuild the ability to manage your homework time.

LearnBuild the ability to settle a disagreement with words.

LearnBuild the ability to care for a pet.

LearnBuild the ability to give to someone in need.

LearnBuild the ability to tell needs from wants.

LearnBuild the ability to weigh a claim critically.

LearnBuild the ability to debate a topic respectfully.

LearnBuild the ability to cook a full meal.

LearnBuild the ability to speak in front of a group.

LearnBuild the ability to how government works.

LearnBuild the ability to stay safe online.

LearnBuild the ability to ride out a strong emotion.

LearnBuild the ability to spot an ad’s persuasion tricks.

LearnBuild the ability to set a goal and track it.

LearnBuild the ability to name your own values.

LearnBuild the ability to be a real friend.

LearnBuild the ability to stand up to peer pressure.

LearnBuild the ability to stand against bullying.

LearnBuild the ability to volunteer locally.

LearnBuild the ability to drive a car.

LearnBuild the ability to change a tire.

LearnBuild the ability to open a bank account.

LearnBuild the ability to file a simple tax return.

LearnBuild the ability to write a résumé.

LearnBuild the ability to interview for a job.

LearnBuild the ability to register to vote and vote.

LearnBuild the ability to know your basic legal rights.

LearnBuild the ability to cook a week of meals.

LearnBuild the ability to jump-start a car.

LearnBuild the ability to read a contract before signing.

LearnBuild the ability to respect consent and boundaries.

LearnBuild the ability to build good credit.

LearnBuild the ability to protect your time; say no.

LearnBuild the ability to rent an apartment.

LearnBuild the ability to understand your insurance.

LearnBuild the ability to start investing.

LearnBuild the ability to plan meals and groceries.

LearnBuild the ability to make a career decision.

LearnBuild the ability to build a lasting relationship.

LearnBuild the ability to negotiate a salary.

LearnBuild the ability to manage debt wisely.

LearnBuild the ability to build an emergency fund.

LearnBuild the ability to network professionally.

LearnBuild the ability to set boundaries at work.

LearnBuild the ability to find and keep a doctor.

LearnBuild the ability to handle basic home repairs.

LearnBuild the ability to choose work that means something.

LearnBuild the ability to keep up the laundry.

LearnBuild the ability to reconcile your accounts monthly.

LearnBuild the ability to keep the car maintained.

LearnBuild the ability to file taxes every year.

LearnBuild the ability to get a yearly physical.

LearnBuild the ability to learn one new skill a year.

LearnBuild the ability to read something substantial daily.

LearnBuild the ability to understand personal finance.

LearnBuild the ability to study history and civics.

LearnBuild the ability to grasp basic statistics.

LearnBuild the ability to eat and cook for health.

LearnBuild the ability to keep close friendships alive.

LearnBuild the ability to contribute to your community.

LearnBuild the ability to steward the environment.

LearnBuild the ability to put your affairs in order.

LearnBuild the ability to care for aging parents.